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Monday, December 3, 2012

I will wait.......



Every second I die, as the days of separation nearby.
A sense of numbness is taking over my mind and I am helpless.
I want to be alone, I want to die.
A part of me is dead and a part of me will always be alive.
With heavy heart I will wait, wait for right time.
If only i could go back in time, erase all my memory.
Live my life second time.
But for all the questions in my mind, I know the answers.
That the 2nd chance cannot be taken, it has to be earned.
A part of me is dead and a part of me will always be alive.
With heavy heart I will wait, wait for right time.

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Laughter: A tonic for happy life


With the fearful strain that is on me night and day, if I did not laugh I should die. — Abraham Lincoln
I always wonder when i see people, some smile, some try to smile, some pretend to smile and some don’t even smile. What is so different with life of these people?
The answer is there is nothing different in their lives. Difference is in the way these people look at their life. Each one of us has problems. It has never happened that none of us has ever faced problems in our lives.
Has it been ever happened to you that you have spent a day without laughing????? . Have you ever not felt lighter after laughing even though life is full of problems????? .Most of us will have the answer “NO”. Laughter has been known from generations as the best medicine .Laughter is a powerful antidote to stress, pain, and conflict. Nothing works faster or more dependably to bring your mind and body back into balance than a good laugh. Humour lightens your burdens, inspires hopes, connects you to others, and keeps you grounded, focused, and alert.

With so much power to heal and renew, the ability to laugh easily and frequently is a tremendous resource for surmounting problems, enhancing your relationships, and supporting both physical and emotional health.
§  A good, hearty laugh relieves physical tension and stress, leaving your muscles relaxed for up to 45 minutes after.
§  Laughter decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies, thus improving your resistance to disease.
§  The body’s natural feel-good chemicals. Endorphins promote an overall sense of well-being and can even temporarily relieve pain.
§  Laughter improves the function of blood vessels and increases blood flow, which can help protect you against a heart attack and other cardiovascular problems.

Laughter makes you feel good. And the good feeling that you get when you laugh remains with you even after the laughter subsides. Humour helps you keep a positive, optimistic outlook through difficult situations, disappointments, and loss.
More than just a respite from sadness and pain, laughter gives you the courage and strength to find new sources of meaning and hope. Even in the most difficult of times, a laugh–or even simply a smile–can go a long way toward making you feel better. And laughter really is contagious—just hearing laughter primes your brain and readies you to smile and join in the fun.
Shared laughter is one of the most effective tools for keeping relationships fresh and exciting. All emotional sharing builds strong and lasting relationship bonds, but sharing laughter and play also adds joy, vitality, and resilience. And humour is a powerful and effective way to heal resentments, disagreements, and hurts. Laughter unites people during difficult times.

Incorporating more humour and play into your daily interactions can improve the quality of your love relationships— as well as your connections with co-workers, family members, and friends. Using humour and laughter in relationships allows you to:

§  . Humour gets you out of your head and away from your troubles.
§  Laughter helps you forget judgments, criticisms, and doubts.
§  Your fear of holding back and holding on are set aside.
§   Deeply felt emotions are allowed to rise to the surface.

Laughter is your birthright, a natural part of life that is innate and inborn. Infants begin smiling during the first weeks of life and laugh out loud within months of being born. Even if you did not grow up in a household where laughter was a common sound, you can learn to laugh at any stage of life.
Begin by setting aside special times to seek out humour and laughter, as you might with working out, and build from there. Eventually, you’ll want to incorporate humour and laughter into the fabric of your life, finding it naturally in everything you do.
Here are some ways to start:
§  Smiling is the beginning of laughter. Like laughter, it’s contagious. Pioneers in “laugh therapy,” find it’s possible to laugh without even experiencing a funny event. The same holds for smiling. When you look at someone or see something even mildly pleasing, practice smiling.
§  Literally make a list. The simple act of considering the good things in your life will distance you from negative thoughts that are a barrier to humour and laughter. When you’re in a state of sadness, you have further to travel to get to humour and laughter.

§  Sometimes humour and laughter are private, a shared joke among a small group, but usually not. More often, people are very happy to share something funny because it gives them an opportunity to laugh again and feed off the humour you find in it. When you hear laughter, seek it out and ask, “What’s funny?”
§  These are people who laugh easily–both at themselves and at life’s absurdities–and who routinely find the humour in everyday events. Their playful point of view and laughter are contagious.

One essential characteristic that helps us laugh is not taking ourselves too seriously. We’ve all known the classic tight-jawed sourpuss who takes everything with deathly seriousness and never laughs at anything. No fun there!
Some events are clearly sad and not occasions for laughter. But most events in life don’t carry an overwhelming sense of either sadness or delight. They fall into the gray zone of ordinary life–giving you the choice to laugh or not.
As laughter, humour, and play become an integrated part of your life, your creativity will flourish and new discoveries for playing with friends, co-workers, acquaintances, and loved ones will occur to you daily. Humour takes you to a higher place where you can view the world from a more relaxed, positive, creative, joyful, and balanced perspective.
At end of the day i always remember these sayings
Don’t take life so seriously,.... nobody does.

Take your life seriously..its your life..if you don’t who else will take it seriously.
These two saying even though being contrary, are true in their own way, it only depends on the situation.
So keep smiling and keep spreading smiles.

Monday, March 26, 2012

The two incidents that changed my life for ever


APJ Abdul kalam has being my inspiration from the day I have heard about him. His interest to 
promote innovate ideas and his heart touching poems that make him “Beautiful Human”rather than “Missile Man” urges me to share two most important incidents of my life which in some or the other way connect to the topics “ What can I give? “ and “how can I make my mother smile?” .So here I go.
WHAT CAN I GIVE???
I have been always “mama’s” boy. I always enjoy helping her in cooking, shopping and spending time with her. This incident happened during my during my semester vacation in July 2010. I was helping my mom in cooking and in the mean time we were sharing our views on how a engineer can change a society. She said me that she was always concerned about the heat which being lost from sides of gas stove burner and asked me whether I could do something about it. This question of her made me think a lot. It was day today problem which no one noticed. I took it as a challenge. 2 months later I finally found a solution to it. I designed a system that could trap the heat being lost from sides of the burner of gas stove and utilize it to heat water. A simple design using copper coil to trap the heat and utilize it to heat water.For me it was idea that could change a common man’s life. As cooking is daily process and we require hot water daily for bathing, this design would save electricity we use for heating water and at same time meet our hot water requirements.



I felt my idea worth spreading and hence I exhibited it during SDM UTSAV Science exhibition .Many people appreciated my idea and asked me whether I could install my design at their homes. The representatives of ISKCON hubli who visited out campus during SDM UTSAV, were also impressed by my idea and asked me to install my design in their Akshaya patra kitchens. I called up my mom and told how my idea was successful. It surely must have brought smile to my mom’s face.

But this is not the end. I submitted my idea under the green idea campaign “Take care take charge 2011” by Times Of India. My Idea was shortlisted among top 10 ideas of the state and I was given opportunity to present my idea in front eminent people and press. My idea was appreciated and I received a certificate of appreciation.
For my mom this meant that her son, who used naughtily play around her, had grown into a big boy and could always contribute something for the betterment of the society, but for me it was just a beginning. I am happy that even my final year engineering project is innovative in its own way and has been approved by Karnataka State Council of Science and Technology ( IISC, Bangalore). My dream of being “Engineer for the society” has just begun.

HOW CAN I MAKE MY MOTHER SMILE????
From my childhood days I have been very close to my mom. I always enjoy sharing my experiences with her. This incident occurred just after I joined my engineering college. I had chosen to study far from my home. It was a stuff decision for both, my parents and me, but I had decided to experience hostel life.
 In starting few days of my hostel life, I felt home sick. I called home twice a day. But as days went on I made new friends, I got busy with studies and hostel life. My frequency of calling home reduced from once in two days to almost once in a week. I never noticed that during my experience of my hostel life, I was going away from my family. But my mother always missed me. But she never expressed it to me as she thought I was busy in my college life and I was enjoying it.
It was only a month later that my mom broke the ice. She broke down on a call and expressed her concern for me. I was shocked and never realized that I was going away from my family. I felt very bad and guilty.
I feel this happens to every Indian at some or the other stage of life. But being an Indian, we are always more bound to our mother more than any other culture. That is why we symbolize anything holy as our mother. From that incident onwards, I decided that I would call home daily and share my experiences. I am happy that I am able to continue that till today and it gives me sense of happiness. I am proud to say
“I make my mother smile everyday”
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AND FINALLY ON 17TH OF MARCH 
MY DREAM CAME TRUE




Wednesday, February 29, 2012

My Answers my life

The last prompt in the 'Tea for two (and a piece of cake) Tuesdays" made me think a lot, even though the questions are simple, they in some or the other ways define me.Thank you Preeti Shenoy  for this beautiful prompt :)


1. If you had Rs.50,000 to just blow up (you have to spend it on YOURSELF. Giving to Charity or    buying gifts for others not allowed), what would you spend it on and why?


-If ever i had Rs 50,000 just to blow up, i would publish my novel as soon as possible ,because for me it's more than a dream.


2. Name three of your closest friends (not family or spouse) and say why you love them.


a) Saptarshi Baksi- He is just not a close friend, but my brother, whom i can always trust upon .He is the only person i have seen in my life, who always puts himself  in other shoes and thinks.I have immense respect for this guy.He always reminds of the saying " when god forgets to bind people in blood relations, he always makes them best buddies".


b) Prithvi rao- In everyone's life, there will be a friend with whom one can share all stupid jokes, fight on stupid reasons and tease endlessly, that friend in my life is Prithvi rao. I always feel  shamelessly  comfortable sharing all my secrets with her.


c) Tauheed - He is the one of my friends who always understands my nature, many people find me weird because i am moody, but he always understands my point of view of thinking and supports me. 


3. Name three books which have profoundly affected you and which you would recommend to everyone to read.
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a) Wings of fire
b) Ignited minds
c) Love Story by Erich Segal


4. If you know for certain that you can never ever fail, what would you attempt to do?
    -Start my own business firm and spread my business all across the globe.


5. What is THE ONE THING that you want very very badly?
   - I badly wana be world's richest person :-p
    
    

Friday, February 24, 2012

Tea for two and piece of me :-p


Tough from outside, but as soft as cake from inside.
Endlessly i search for feeling that can never change.
Admirer of beauty, i fall in love with beauty every second :-p

Careless about what world thinks about me,i do things which i want to do.
Amidst my anger and love, i  win what i want and i lose what i have.
King of thoughts, beggar of emotions .
End of the day, i am what i am.



Some dreams die young

Recently one of my  friends gave up his life by hanging himself .It was a shocking news for me.
I knew him from school and to my knowledge he was fun loving and active guy.I don't know what made him take such a drastic step.He was a NTSE scholar and  a bright student .It was only recently that he was not able to take up the engineering exam stress and had few backlogs. But that's no reason to end up one's life.
I have seen people who have got 3-4 backlogs, passing engineering with a job in their hand.

  In 2006, 5,857 students — or 16 a day — committed suicide across India due to exam stress. And these are just the official figures

[Source: TOI, March 2008, Report] 




95-100 people commit suicide in India every day

- And of these a whopping 40% are in the adolescent age group


[Source: CNN-IBN Report, Jan 13 2010] 




 20 students killed themselves every day in 2010

Some blame education system, some media and some blame parents for too much pressurizing their children to perform well. Whenever such sensitive topics come up in media, there is always blame game, but no solution.

Whenever i think about my friend i always feel 

"Some dream has died young"   

Sunday, February 12, 2012

Patience is virtue of success

Hello everyone,
It has  been around a month i have started this blog. but unfortunately i have not been able to post anything .
I always love reading and writhing things that i experience, but i always kept blogging aside  , because i felt giving my academics more importance than anything, but i have learnt that academics is not 'the'only reason of success and happiness, doing what you love to do is real happiness.so here i go.

Yesterday i learnt a very important lesson in my life.
Hard work is not always immediately followed by success, you have to wait and have patience.In my one month GATE 2012 preparation, i lost many fun moments because i believe in sacrifice. I gave my 100%, but my GATE exam didn't go well.I was shocked and confused where i went wrong.But i am glad, i learnt a lesson that not every hard work is followed immediately  by success, you have to just wait, but it will surely fetch you success someday or the other.At and of the day, i always admire my good friends saying " Keep your eyes always open, each moment teach you a lesson ".